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Connecting your dots… counting your blessings

In his famous Stanford graduation speech Steve Jobs said “ again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards.  So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.  You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.  This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

In other words, you will only understand what happened looking backwards. If you try to predict your future you will fail, because it never goes the way you want. So you can either trust, that all will work out ok, or you can worry your way through life.

For instance, he mentioned visiting a calligraphy course in college, though he had no idea if this was ever going to be practical in his life. Later he used his knowledge in caligraphy to create great text styles on the Macintosh.

Similarly, in my life, when I look back I truly believe that all the experiences that I have had till this very moment have been God or the universe prepping me for this season on my life.

Born the youngest, hence was loved, pampered and spoilt, growing up, I never really had too much personal responsibility, I was just the errand girl – go bring eggs, go bring rice, go bring salt, go help dad clean, go wipe the furniture, this I see gave me an opportunity to meet various people, to build friendships, to be street smart, to talk a lot with people.

At elementary school, I was an average student, but I could sing and I could recite poetry and I could act – this made me very popular but also taught me how to throw my voice, how not to have stage fright.

At university, I majored in law and economics and accounting this gave me the insights in society and thought me how to be savvy with my money, it gave me skills that I could teach my children, the importance of studying, the importance of discipline, the importance of saving for the future, but mainly the importance of showing up, day after day.

At the various jobs I had in sales, in an office as a receptionist, an executive assistant, gave me an opportunity to work with brilliant minds, intelligent people, see life through their eyes.  Make me have a paradigm shift of rising above the everyday and looking beyond.

At my marriage – being the youngest, marrying the oldest thought me how to take my place in society, in a family filled with love.  Through the hard times in my marriage, I am not a quitter, that i am a person of deep faith, that I am like an oak that has its roots in the ground, that my soul is an old soul, that I am able to manifest my dreams, that I am a humble instrument, here only to do his will and to bring forth what he has planned for me, to be a guide to my family and to others, who are currently walking the same journey I walked, to be a voice for those who have not found theirs yet and that if you do every thing from love, that all will be amazing in the end.

When I became an empty nester, I was searching to find my purpose, I joined toastmasters, I learnt how to speak, I made amazing friendships and  I learnt how to lessen the ums and sooo and buts in my speech, so that I could be a better speaker.  I learnt how to network, how to talk to strangers, I learnt to find my voice.

I met Janet, my dear friend now, who did my passion map for me, who was able to get me to focus, on what makes me happy, what is my goal for the future, what are my top 5 priorities, what are my 5 five dreams.  What is my mission statement?  Glad to report back, that on May 27th, 2018 it will be five years to this date, that 60% of whatever I had written has come true.

So, I urge you, look back on your life, connect the dots, count your blessings and be grateful, for all you have had and all that you are yet to receive.

Join your hands in gratitude and affirm, that I now walk forward confidently in my dream, Today is a great day!

And so it is ……………….


A more positive me

With gratitude I accept responsibility for my thoughts.

With gratitude I accept responsibility for my emotions

With gratitude I accept responsibility for my actions.

Love, where would you have me go today

What will you have me do today

What will you have me say and to whom.

Messages from the universe….. today

It always amazes me how, the universe gets your attention.  Today a strong message I received.

Land appeared beneath their feet where there had been none, Joan, because they dared to step.

Cups that had long been empty began to overflow, as they were finally raised.

And friends were drawn, as if from the ether, when the party shoes went on.
“We all must challenge ourselves to be account-centric, field-focused and outcomes-driven.”   We must build brand, enhance relationships and develop careers as we drive growth by enabling our teams with market leading assets.”


To me this translated to get centred, focus on what you desire and know that the results will be what you want.  To do this, make sure you believe you are a champion, you behave like a champion, Walk/ Dance / Talk and love like a champion…… and so it is.

Would love to hear some of the messages you have received…

My interview with Kathy Smith 

Creative Age London offers many programs to it members. I hope to offer members the opportunity to learn IntenSati workouts. Check out my interview with Kathy Smith.

i am the change I want to see I am done complaining I set my self free I am peace I am love I am joy I am abundance  I have everything I need already inside me.  I am the change.  Stronger today  better in every way, inspired to be the very best that I can be.  This friends is what IntenSati means to me.  Come check it out…

Would love your thoughts
Thanks. Joan

reconnecting again….

Hello dear friends, i have been away from this site for too long, life has taken various turns but i am back now, stronger, happier, trying to find myself once more.  For whoever would love to listen, here is a beautiful link.  Enjoy!


Day Four: Serially Lost

Today’s Prompt: Write about a loss: something (or someone) that was part of your life, and isn’t any more.

Hello friends, I am enjoying this.  Welcome to my blog today.  When I read the words “Serially Lost” the first thing that jumps to my mind, is all the years gone by.  I am 51 years old.  50 years of my life, just gone, almost in a twinkle of an eye.  

As I ponder, I do believe I have had a happy life, being the youngest of three children, was always the pampered spoilt child, who got her way.  I would not say we came from a wealthy home, but we always had enough, we never wanted for anything, I also was good at academics and singing and hence got my share of being in the spot light.  I however grew up with a brother who has cerebral palsy; he was 9 years older than I, then a sister 7 years older and then me.   As a result of my brother’s condition my mum was often sad, and us’ if I will admit looking back, disliked the attention / pity it brought our family, whenever my brother would get seizures in a public place.  However being able to care for my brother has made me and my sister so much more able to deal with what life throws at us.  

Who am I really, I wonder?  Am I the little girl who was so carefree, or am I that teenager who had trouble fitting in, a young woman who had trouble finding the right guy? A young mother who did not know if she had enough love to go around, what did I lose? What did I gain over the years?  All i was doing all these years was just running around pleasing everybody but myself, putting me on the back burner, but feeling a bit resentful inside, always longing to do things just for me.

When I turned 47, I made a promise to myself, that I would finally be selfish and start working on me.  I started doing small things here and there that would make me smile.  I joined the gym, I joined the Global Corporate Challenge and made a commitment to walk 10,000 steps for 16 weeks each in the summer, I am proud to say I have accomplished this 75% of the time; my highest being 14,000 steps in one day.  I also joined a speakers club and now learning to blog.  I still have a long way to go.  But as Lao Tzu quotes “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” 

It’s funny the saying be careful what you wish for -because this saying showed me how true it was in the last couple of days – I  have been doing the meditations by Deepak Chopra and Oprah and my intention through these 21 days  was – show me where I need to change, I go to work on Thursday and one thing lead to another and in a tense voice I was told, that I micro manage people, that I have a tendency to leave drawers open and I am not a very good communicator. Boom back to back, I got told…. 😦 seriously, universe does it all have to happen on one day?  Then I open my email on Friday and there is the message about Writing 101!  I am spending time with my daughter and we are chatting, again one thing leads to another and I ask her why she never replies back to my texts but how she keeps answering her friends and she says “because you always send mommy texts” I was puzzled and asked her what she meant and she said, you only send us texts to do something, or go someplace, or pick up something or to tell them I love them or to bless them.  She said they knew all of that and appreciate it once in a while, but if I wanted an answer, I had to say something funny, or ask a question….. You get what I mean, so more lesson in less than a week.  I am on a roll here, getting pointers from the universe, hope I can cope and make the necessary changes.

So here I am friends, trying to lose my pride, trying not to micro manage and trying to learn to speak more clearly and write on clearly.  Thank you for being a part of my journey…….onwards, for some more tomorrow.  Good night.

Day Three: Commit to a Writing Practice – Today’s Prompt: Write about the three most important songs in your life — what do they mean to you?

The Three Songs that came to my mind on reading the email were:

Jim Reeves – May The Good Lord Bless And Keep You –

Abba – I Have A Dream Lyrics –

Gloria Gaynor – I Will Survive –

I loved the first song, because as a child, my dad always sang it to me when he put me to sleep and if i remember correctly, it was the first song i learnt to sing.  This song brings so many memories, to my mind, it just soothes me as i read the lyrics.  At our home we also sang this song on someone’s birthday as a blessing, or if someone was just visiting us from far away, we kids would line up and sing this song.

I love the second song because this song gives me hope, my life has had some rough times and when i think of this song, it lifts me up.  the constant reference to knowing that no matter what you are going thru’ in your life, each thing has something good in it for you and when the time is right, good things will happen.  So we can keep dreaming of better days, better things to come, but also truly treasure each of the present moments because it is through these moments, that we will arrive at our destination.

I love the third song, because it is a song that gives me strength and courage and reminds me that all i need is me, and when i am hurt and when i am down, i have to take time to look inside and be strong again, i need not let anyone hurt me  but have the courage to love myself and be the person i am truly meant to be.

Its really funny how the universe provides insight when you need it and today i got this post on face book.  Hope you helps you take the next steps, just as it did for me.

Quit living a boring, predictable life just to keep others happy.  You were meant to do great things, not just to sacrifice yourself.  Shake off the guilt, trash the self-pity, set your own goals and start chasing them RIGHT NOW!

A Room with a View – my haven, my sanity

Ever so often,i need out of my busy world, full of computers and telephones, of people wanting this and that, of numerable deadlines to meet and people to please.  Depending on what time of the day it is, my room for sanity has a different view.

For instance, if i have to focus on a hard task of numbers or taxes on hand, my sanity room would just be inspirational songs on the internet, that cuts out all external sounds, soothes me and lets me concentrate harder and get the task on hand done.

In another case if i have just finished on a project that needed lots of focus, my sanity room would be taking a washroom break and just breathing, or doing the stairs at work or enjoying a hot cup of tea.

However, when i have an hour or two to bask in the luxury of nature, a room with a view is a walk by the river with the sun glistening,  the ducks swimming, the grass as green as can be in the summer, the warm sun on my skin.  A walk by the ocean, watching the waves touch the shore, the cool water on your feet, the feel of warm sand, the warm sea breeze, being able to simple lie down and watch the clouds, from behind your sunglasses.

Nature is the canvas on which God paints, all we have to do is just take in its beauty, connect with the universe, just let go.  Each day promising the universe and our selves that we will be ambassadors of love and kindness to whoever we meet, where ever we go, whatever we do.

An insight on Easter

Happy Easter one and all – Easter is truly one of the most important festivals in the catholic church. It is when Christ rose from the dead. It is the celebration of the paschal mystries that kind of defines our lives. When we are having a good time with family and friends, spending time together, we are in the Maundy Thursday of our lives. When we are sad and pensive and upset about something we are in the good Friday of our lives, When we are anxious and waiting on news, on something, we are in holy Saturday of our lives and when we are happy and rejoicing, we are in the Easter of our lives.

Easter like any other festival is a time for good food, family and friends to get together, to do activities together and have fun. Food always brings people together and add to it wine and tea and you get everyone talking and laughing.  Today I tried my hand at some new recipes – Green pea pulao, butter chicken, cabbage and carrot sambol and channa masala.  Boy did they ever come out good.  We topped it up with apple pie and pecan icecream.  Yummy.

Wish the weather was warmer today, but all in all it was a good day.

Do write in and let me know how your day was with your family.  Do you have any special traditions?



Prosperity game – lets try it :-)