Connecting your dots… counting your blessings
by Live Better, Be Better.......my journey to happiness
In his famous Stanford graduation speech Steve Jobs said “ again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
In other words, you will only understand what happened looking backwards. If you try to predict your future you will fail, because it never goes the way you want. So you can either trust, that all will work out ok, or you can worry your way through life.
For instance, he mentioned visiting a calligraphy course in college, though he had no idea if this was ever going to be practical in his life. Later he used his knowledge in caligraphy to create great text styles on the Macintosh.
Similarly, in my life, when I look back I truly believe that all the experiences that I have had till this very moment have been God or the universe prepping me for this season on my life.
Born the youngest, hence was loved, pampered and spoilt, growing up, I never really had too much personal responsibility, I was just the errand girl – go bring eggs, go bring rice, go bring salt, go help dad clean, go wipe the furniture, this I see gave me an opportunity to meet various people, to build friendships, to be street smart, to talk a lot with people.
At elementary school, I was an average student, but I could sing and I could recite poetry and I could act – this made me very popular but also taught me how to throw my voice, how not to have stage fright.
At university, I majored in law and economics and accounting this gave me the insights in society and thought me how to be savvy with my money, it gave me skills that I could teach my children, the importance of studying, the importance of discipline, the importance of saving for the future, but mainly the importance of showing up, day after day.
At the various jobs I had in sales, in an office as a receptionist, an executive assistant, gave me an opportunity to work with brilliant minds, intelligent people, see life through their eyes. Make me have a paradigm shift of rising above the everyday and looking beyond.
At my marriage – being the youngest, marrying the oldest thought me how to take my place in society, in a family filled with love. Through the hard times in my marriage, I am not a quitter, that i am a person of deep faith, that I am like an oak that has its roots in the ground, that my soul is an old soul, that I am able to manifest my dreams, that I am a humble instrument, here only to do his will and to bring forth what he has planned for me, to be a guide to my family and to others, who are currently walking the same journey I walked, to be a voice for those who have not found theirs yet and that if you do every thing from love, that all will be amazing in the end.
When I became an empty nester, I was searching to find my purpose, I joined toastmasters, I learnt how to speak, I made amazing friendships and I learnt how to lessen the ums and sooo and buts in my speech, so that I could be a better speaker. I learnt how to network, how to talk to strangers, I learnt to find my voice.
I met Janet, my dear friend now, who did my passion map for me, who was able to get me to focus, on what makes me happy, what is my goal for the future, what are my top 5 priorities, what are my 5 five dreams. What is my mission statement? Glad to report back, that on May 27th, 2018 it will be five years to this date, that 60% of whatever I had written has come true.
So, I urge you, look back on your life, connect the dots, count your blessings and be grateful, for all you have had and all that you are yet to receive.
Join your hands in gratitude and affirm, that I now walk forward confidently in my dream, Today is a great day!
And so it is ……………….