by Live Better, Be Better.......my journey to happiness
Hello friends, life has been a bit challenging in the last few weeks, hence i had to pull off the blooging course. However, I have written a Toast Master speech and would love to hear your input……
My journey to a better me
John Homer Miller – Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.
Madame Chair, fellow Toastmasters and honoured guest. By this speech, I am hoping to start a serious journey to find my purpose and be the person I was meant to be. I am trying to learn how to speak out on things that are important to me, to stop hiding behind a mask, trying to discover my voice and particularly help immigrant women like me realize that it is ok to do something just for you that gives you pleasure, simple things, like taking time to read a book, listening to your favourite music, expecting others to clean up after themselves, that you are loved even if you are not needed and to recognize that confident speaking sends out ripples and waves of positive energy that transforms lives.
I am the youngest of three children with a huge age gap between my siblings and I. Growing up whenever I went into the kitchen and asked my mum how I could help, she would say, no you better leave, you will only annoy us and make a mess, go play, go study, go do anything, but do not stay in the kitchen. This was good and bad, on looking back, I feel, this constant dismsal gave me a complex that I was never good enough, to do anything responsible. I feel I still carry this stigma often wondering my worth, my value, my contribution and often feel I am not good enough.
Further, I grew up in a culture where women were seen and not heard, where you were afraid to speak up because you fear being ignored or criticized. Hence you grew up to be quietly polite or politely quiet, feeling and looking like second class citizen when in fact you were uniquely special.
For some of us, humility was such a part of our upbringing we absorbed acting timid, reluctant to ask for anything. After living in Canada now for a while, I have come to realize that I no longer want to be timid I want to break free I want to step bravely forward to speak, to honor the courage of women and honor my life and the wisdom that I have acquired through meeting the many challenges that life has thrown my way to make me truly amazing.
In my quest to better myself, I have tried to surround myself with various authors, teachers who have excelled in their journey of making a difference in the wold and touching people’s lives. My first awakening came when I read Wayne Dyer’s book titled Inspiration – your ultimate calling – The synopsis and ultimately the book has become one of my favourites. To give you an insight it states, “There’s a voice in the universe calling each of us to remember our purpose—our reason for being here now, in this world of impermanence. The voice whispers, shouts, and sings to us that this experience of being in form, in space and time, knowing life and death, has meaning. The voice is that of inspiration, which is within each and every one of us”.
My second favourite author is Louise Hay and her book you can heal your life has made me aware of positive self-talk, and how you can change your life by changing your thoughts. Your thoughts determine your experience. You attract what you think about, whether you want it or not. Like karma, the law of attraction is not about blame or guilt — it’s just a simple reaction. What you focus your attention on tends to increase.
My third author is Dr. Christine Northrup. Who stresses in her book Goddesses Never Age – that aging is inevitable but getting old is optional. We each have the power to be an ageless goddess and to be a living breathing embodiment of joyful, ageless ,no matter what has gone before.
As the saying goes what you seek is also seeing you. So lets ask ourselves, who do you really want to be? Let’s view our life as a cymbal that reverberates. A reverberation is an echoing sound. When you bang on a big piece of metal, you can hear the reverberation even after you stop banging. The positive /negative feelings I bring about when I interact with every person I meet, will in turn create a positive or negative reverberation on earth, hence it is important to be conscious of our choices.
I am trying also strongly to focus on the positive, to see the good in people, For instance when I come across a difficult person, I try to think like the actor David Hayman, who once said while describing someone who brought lots of conflict into the room with him, “He’s an angel of God—cleverly disguised as an ass.” So, which part of a person are you willing to see?
Hence fellow toastmasters let be Resonant in the words of Marianne Williamson “We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present.”