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Connecting your dots… counting your blessings

In his famous Stanford graduation speech Steve Jobs said “ again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards.  So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.  You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.  This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

In other words, you will only understand what happened looking backwards. If you try to predict your future you will fail, because it never goes the way you want. So you can either trust, that all will work out ok, or you can worry your way through life.

For instance, he mentioned visiting a calligraphy course in college, though he had no idea if this was ever going to be practical in his life. Later he used his knowledge in caligraphy to create great text styles on the Macintosh.

Similarly, in my life, when I look back I truly believe that all the experiences that I have had till this very moment have been God or the universe prepping me for this season on my life.

Born the youngest, hence was loved, pampered and spoilt, growing up, I never really had too much personal responsibility, I was just the errand girl – go bring eggs, go bring rice, go bring salt, go help dad clean, go wipe the furniture, this I see gave me an opportunity to meet various people, to build friendships, to be street smart, to talk a lot with people.

At elementary school, I was an average student, but I could sing and I could recite poetry and I could act – this made me very popular but also taught me how to throw my voice, how not to have stage fright.

At university, I majored in law and economics and accounting this gave me the insights in society and thought me how to be savvy with my money, it gave me skills that I could teach my children, the importance of studying, the importance of discipline, the importance of saving for the future, but mainly the importance of showing up, day after day.

At the various jobs I had in sales, in an office as a receptionist, an executive assistant, gave me an opportunity to work with brilliant minds, intelligent people, see life through their eyes.  Make me have a paradigm shift of rising above the everyday and looking beyond.

At my marriage – being the youngest, marrying the oldest thought me how to take my place in society, in a family filled with love.  Through the hard times in my marriage, I am not a quitter, that i am a person of deep faith, that I am like an oak that has its roots in the ground, that my soul is an old soul, that I am able to manifest my dreams, that I am a humble instrument, here only to do his will and to bring forth what he has planned for me, to be a guide to my family and to others, who are currently walking the same journey I walked, to be a voice for those who have not found theirs yet and that if you do every thing from love, that all will be amazing in the end.

When I became an empty nester, I was searching to find my purpose, I joined toastmasters, I learnt how to speak, I made amazing friendships and  I learnt how to lessen the ums and sooo and buts in my speech, so that I could be a better speaker.  I learnt how to network, how to talk to strangers, I learnt to find my voice.

I met Janet, my dear friend now, who did my passion map for me, who was able to get me to focus, on what makes me happy, what is my goal for the future, what are my top 5 priorities, what are my 5 five dreams.  What is my mission statement?  Glad to report back, that on May 27th, 2018 it will be five years to this date, that 60% of whatever I had written has come true.

So, I urge you, look back on your life, connect the dots, count your blessings and be grateful, for all you have had and all that you are yet to receive.

Join your hands in gratitude and affirm, that I now walk forward confidently in my dream, Today is a great day!

And so it is ……………….



A more positive me

With gratitude I accept responsibility for my thoughts.

With gratitude I accept responsibility for my emotions

With gratitude I accept responsibility for my actions.

Love, where would you have me go today

What will you have me do today

What will you have me say and to whom.

October 16, 2017…. notes from the universe today :-)

As you get older you become the person you always should have been.

In every work of a genius we recognize our once rejected thoughts – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Have a dream – be inspired by passion

Visualize – discover how to go on your adventure

Strategize – where do we begin your journey



Messages from the universe….. today

It always amazes me how, the universe gets your attention.  Today a strong message I received.

Land appeared beneath their feet where there had been none, Joan, because they dared to step.

Cups that had long been empty began to overflow, as they were finally raised.

And friends were drawn, as if from the ether, when the party shoes went on.
“We all must challenge ourselves to be account-centric, field-focused and outcomes-driven.”   We must build brand, enhance relationships and develop careers as we drive growth by enabling our teams with market leading assets.”


To me this translated to get centred, focus on what you desire and know that the results will be what you want.  To do this, make sure you believe you are a champion, you behave like a champion, Walk/ Dance / Talk and love like a champion…… and so it is.

Would love to hear some of the messages you have received…

My interview with Kathy Smith 

Creative Age London offers many programs to it members. I hope to offer members the opportunity to learn IntenSati workouts. Check out my interview with Kathy Smith.

i am the change I want to see I am done complaining I set my self free I am peace I am love I am joy I am abundance  I have everything I need already inside me.  I am the change.  Stronger today  better in every way, inspired to be the very best that I can be.  This friends is what IntenSati means to me.  Come check it out…

Would love your thoughts
Thanks. Joan

the words we attach to our experience become our experience…

“Language shapes our behavior and each word we use is imbued with multitudes of personal meaning. The right words spoken in the right way can bring us love, money and respect, while the wrong words—or even the right words spoken in the wrong way—can lead to a country to war. We must carefully orchestrate our speech if we want to achieve our goals and bring our dreams to fruition.”

— Dr. Andrew Newberg, Words Can Change Your Brain

read the full article here.




IntenSati365 days of the year….. come join my journey to STOP living and start THRIVING

Intent (Intension) + Sati (Mindfulness), a workout that isn’t a mindless chore but a life affirming, body transformation

A new philosophy by Patricia Moreno – by which your mind creates positive emotion during a physical workout – thereby changing your body chemistry and enabling you to gain clarity and purpose

Each exercise is broken into Action – the way you move, Attitude – your emotion, Affirmation – what you say

◦e.g. in a strength exercise – the action is punch, the attitude is strength, the affirmation is “I am strong”

My proposal to each of you….

Bring about a conscious awareness to activate a positive state of body & mind to ignite excellence in all areas of your life.

I urge you to watch ( disruptive power of exercise | Dr. Wendy Suzuki | TEDxACCD) Dr. Wendy Suziki, a neuro scientist who has done the research and proven how this form of exercise brings about tremendous benefits,

I challenge you to try something different and reap the benefits of strengthening yourself physically & emotionally.

I was introduced by authors such as Louise Hay, Robert Holden and Wayne Dyer to affirmations

I am a positive person and volunteer in my church, in my community

I brought up my children having nothing and today they are good, successful young adults.

I truly believe by practicing IntenSati  we can create a paradigm shift and strengthen our minds and bodies, thereby creating a ripple effect in society.

IntenSati helps us remodel ourselves because you are what you think you are. This is the first workout that fuses the power of positive thinking with physical exercise.

Why me….
I feel empowered to do something BIG

I believe in providing a differential service in the community in a simplier, better and faster way

I believe I can take positive action, in contributing to my volunteer circle and the community at large.

More Information

If you want to try out some of the workouts J Your Power by Patricia Moreno | Life Reimagined Series #2: 5-minute mood-booster workout with Patricia Moreno of IntenSati Patricia Moreno Intensati 58 minutes

Please let me know your thoughts, try the exercises, listen to the TED talk…… lets thrive together 🙂


reconnecting again….

Hello dear friends, i have been away from this site for too long, life has taken various turns but i am back now, stronger, happier, trying to find myself once more.  For whoever would love to listen, here is a beautiful link.  Enjoy!


“Finding me”

Hello friends, life has been a bit challenging in the last few weeks, hence i had to pull off the blooging course.  However, I have written a Toast Master speech and would love to hear your input……

My journey to a better me

John Homer Miller – Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you  as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you  as by the way your mind looks at what happens.

Madame Chair, fellow Toastmasters and honoured guest.  By this speech, I am hoping to start a serious journey to find my purpose and be the person I was meant to be.   I am trying to learn how to speak out  on things that are important to me, to stop hiding behind a mask, trying to discover my voice and particularly help immigrant women like me realize that it is ok to do something just for you that gives you pleasure, simple things, like taking time to read a book, listening to your favourite music, expecting others to clean up after themselves, that you are loved even if you are not needed  and to recognize  that confident speaking sends out ripples and waves of positive energy that transforms lives.

I am the youngest of three children with a huge age gap between my siblings and I.  Growing up whenever I went into the kitchen and asked my mum how I could help, she would say, no you better leave, you will only annoy us and make a mess, go play, go study, go do anything, but do not stay in the kitchen.  This was good and bad, on looking back, I feel, this constant dismsal gave me a complex that I was never good enough, to do anything responsible.  I feel I still carry this stigma often wondering my worth, my value, my contribution and often feel I am not good enough.

Further, I grew up in a culture where women were seen and not heard, where you were afraid to speak up because you fear being ignored or criticized. Hence you grew up to be quietly polite or politely quiet, feeling and looking like second class citizen when in fact you were uniquely special.

For some of us, humility was such a part of our upbringing we absorbed acting timid, reluctant to ask for anything.  After living in Canada now for a while, I have come to realize that I no longer want to be timid I want to break free  I want to step bravely forward to speak, to honor the courage of women and honor my life and the wisdom that I have acquired through meeting the many challenges that life has thrown my way to make me truly amazing.

In my quest to better myself, I have tried to surround myself with various authors, teachers who have excelled in their journey of making a difference in the wold and touching people’s lives.  My first awakening came when I read Wayne Dyer’s book titled Inspiration – your ultimate calling – The synopsis and ultimately the book has become one of my favourites.  To give you an insight it states, “There’s a voice in the universe calling each of us to remember our purpose—our reason for being here now, in this world of impermanence. The voice whispers, shouts, and sings to us that this experience of being in form, in space and time, knowing life and death, has meaning. The voice is that of inspiration, which is within each and every one of us”.

My second favourite author is Louise Hay and her book you can heal your life  has made me aware of positive self-talk, and how you can change your life by changing your thoughts. Your thoughts determine your experience. You attract what you think about, whether you want it or not.  Like karma, the law of attraction is not about blame or guilt — it’s just a simple reaction.  What you focus your attention on tends to increase.

My third author is Dr. Christine Northrup.  Who stresses in her book Goddesses Never Age – that aging is inevitable but getting old is optional.  We each have the power to be an ageless goddess and to be a living breathing embodiment of joyful, ageless ,no matter what has gone before.

As the saying goes what you seek is also seeing you.  So lets ask ourselves, who do you really want to be?  Let’s view our life as a cymbal that reverberates. A reverberation is an echoing sound. When you bang on a big piece of metal, you can hear the reverberation even after you stop banging. The positive /negative feelings I bring about when I interact with every person I meet, will in turn create a positive or negative reverberation on earth, hence it is important to be conscious of our choices.

I am trying also strongly to focus on the positive, to see the good in people, For instance when I come across a difficult person, I try to think like the actor David Hayman, who once said while describing someone who brought lots of conflict into the room with him, “He’s an angel of God—cleverly disguised as an ass.” So, which part of a person are you willing to see?

Hence fellow toastmasters let be Resonant in the words of Marianne Williamson  “We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present.”


Dr. Christiane Northrup

wow!!!! all you women out there you have to listen to this.